Women have affairs because they are unhappy in their relationship but don’t have the courage to make a dramatic life change. They may have children and don’t want to rock the boat at home. They may be financially secure in their marriage and don’t want to lose that security base. They may be fearful about ending their relationship and find it safer to maintain the present facade and sneak out for emotional and physical fulfillment. This is always a risky business that can lead to dire consequences if the affair is discovered, but women take the chance because they can’t see another option available to them. I encourage these women to consider the consequences before moving ahead with an affair. Is this really the best option for you? Or should you choose to step out of your current relationship and make the commitment to move on with your life as an expression of your personal power and heightened self-esteem? Therapists, relationship coaches, online programs and other resources are available to support women in making better decisions for themselves and their children.
Rosalind Sedacca, CCT is a Dating In Mid-Life Mentor and author of 99 Things Women Wish They Knew Before Dating After 40, 50 & Yes, 60! as well as several other dating and relationship courses and programs. She’s also a Divorce & Parenting Coach and founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network. Follow her at http://www.womendataingafter40.com and http://www.childcentereddivorce.com.