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Online darting, especially after age 50 or 60, can be quite different from past relationship experiences. Be prepared for new challenges and new levels of awareness. Meeting prospective new partners can be exciting. However, you need to be cautious when dating in today’s world. Keep your antenna up and be alert. Have fun, but also be concerned about your safety! Here are some valuable tips to ensure you are dating safely and wisely.

Crucial safe dating tips to follow:

  • When meeting for the first time, don’t let your date to pick you up at your home. Never provide your home address or other personal details!
  • For first or second dates, always meet in a safe public place where other people are in close proximity. Another option is to go out with a group of people, or a double date.
  • Be diligent and never let your guard down on a first date. Don’t get fooled by reassuring words. Never assume, for example, that a man is safe because he claims to be religious, a “gentleman” or a nice guy .
  • Trust your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. If you haven’t met him before and sense from the beginning of the date that something doesn’t feel right, then leave immediately. Be polite, but safety first!
  • Be alert. When chatting via email, text or phone, pay attention. You can get a “take” on characteristics, quality traits or values from these conversations. Is he rigid or controlling? Does he seem to anger easily? Is he avoiding some of your questions? These can be red flag warnings that it’s time to move on.
  • Never share your last name, address, workplace, phone number, or any other identifying information when corresponding online. Maintain anonymity until you feel you are in safe company.
  • Try the surprise call test. Call your date at unscheduled times. If he really appreciates spending time with you, he will be pleased and not complain about your unexpected calls. Watch for signs of stress or inconsistency in behavior or messages. Always be alert for the unspoken nuances, inconsistent body language and voice tone and anything out of the ordinary.
  • Never feel compelled to rush into dating. Neediness attracts users and manipulators. Take the time to know and trust your prospective date, especially before actually me. Learn and ask questions about his interests, beliefs, and habits. Listen to how he talks and responds to you. Be aware of how his mood changes. If you sense that something is wrong, trust your instinct on this. There probably is.
  • Before dating online get a free anonymous e-mail account. Never give out your real email or name online. Feel free to change your online dating address and name if you feel you’re being hassled by anyone. Think safety at all times.

By following these tips you can enjoy rewarding dating experiences knowing you are protecting yourself through diligence and awareness.

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Rosalind Sedacca, CLC is a Dating in Midlife Mentor and Coach. She is co-author of 99 Things Women Wish They Knew Before Dating After 40, 50 & Yes, 60! She is also co-creator of the DatingRescue! 10-week eCourse for women and the Create Your Ideal Relationship Kit for women over forty. Learn more at: www.womendatingafter40.com and www.womendatingrescue.com.

 

 

 

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Sadly, celebrity divorces make all the headlines for all the wrong reasons. They showcase the most unconscious behavior, especially when it comes to relationships.

Far too often we find the more shallow celebrities, and those who follow them with star-lit eyes, spend more time working out their wedding details than on determining whether this was a good match from the start. Too many couples think no further than the honeymoon plans when contemplating marriage. They have no idea about the complexity behind real relationship issues and the maturity it takes to create a successful long-term outcome. Kim Kardashian is just one example.

Divorced couples learn through hindsight about the challenges two people face when living together week after week, month after month in today’s stress-filled world. It takes awareness, flexibility, great communication skills and the ability to understand your partner’s perspective to make a relationship work – and that’s just for routine life experiences. Throw in accidents, sickness, job loss and other major stressors, not to mention the complexities that come with having children, and it’s easy to understand why so many marriages fail and too often end in divorce.

If you’re divorced and looking to find a healthier, happier relationship ahead, or marrying for the first time and want to avoid relationship disasters, here are some tips that are worth serious consideration:

  • Know your partner well — during the good times and the bad. It’s after you face disagreements, nursing your partner through an illness and other life challenges that you find out who you are really contemplating spending the rest of your life with. If what you discover makes you uncomfortable, have some serious conversations – or move on before making any further commitments.
  • Don’t expect to be “completed,” “saved,” or “fixed.” No one can fill the void in your inner self. You’re setting your partner up for failure if you expect them to fix your problems and love you through your unresolved issues. Do the inner work on yourself first, perhaps with the support of a therapist or coach. Heal your wounds and neediness. Then seek out another soul who has done the same to partner with you.
  • Be hooked on more than just romance. Happily married couples will tell you that you have to be more than great bed-mates to make a real relationship work. Look for common values, goals, beliefs and interests. Opposites may attract in the short-term, but you want a marriage based on respect and sharing a future together. If your core values and interests are not in alignment, you’re facing a tougher road ahead.
  • Be your authentic self – and don’t change for a partner’s approval. You can’t fake your way through a marriage. If you hate sports, the internet or pets, state it up front and find a mate who loves you knowing this reality. It’s unfair to hide your true self from your partner and it’s a disservice to yourself pretending to be who you are not. It’s wise to honor who you are. Then look for a partner with high self-esteem who loves themselves as they are. That’s a formula for lasting relationship success!

As Kim Kardashian discovered, money won’t buy you a happy marriage. You can’t use sensuality as a substitute for good sense. Relationships don’t have storybook endings. They require constant attention, the ability to sacrifice and compromise at times, and a heavy dose of respect for the person you brought into your life.

Before setting out in the relationship world, work on your inner demons, let go of the baggage from previous relationships, and take your time in getting to know the special partner you are choosing. There’s no magic wand that will make your relationship succeed, but these guidelines will set you on a course that will circumvent a lot of pot holes along the road to happily ever after.

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Rosalind Sedacca, CCT is a Divorce and Relationship Coach. She is founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network for parents and author of the internationally acclaimed ebook: How Do I Tell the Kids About the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children – with Love! She is also co-author of 99 Things Women Wish They Knew Before Dating After 40, 50 & Yes, 60! Her free ebook on Post-Divorce Parenting: Success Strategies for Getting It Right is available at http://www.childcentereddivorce.com. Rosalind’s free dating ebook can be found at http://www.womendatingafter40.com.

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Dating safety Tips

Ready to go on your date? Excited? Hoping this could be the special one? We hope your date is everything you wish for and more! Have fun, but also be concerned about your safety! We’ve added a few tips to follow along with using our unique online dating safety tool!

Here are a few dating safety tips to follow:

• When meeting for the first time, never allow your date to pick you up from your home. In fact, your date shouldn’t even know your home address yet!

• For a first meeting, always meet in a public place where other people are in close proximity. You may also want to consider going out with a group of people, or a double date.

• It’s important never to let your guard down when on a first date. Never assume a man is safe just because he claims to be religious or a gentleman.

• If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. And if you haven’t met him before, and you know at the beginning of the date that something doesn’t feel right, then leave immediately.

• As you chat via email and on the phone you may be able to start to pick out characteristics of the other person. Are they controlling? Do they seem to anger easily? Do they avoid some of your questions? These can be questionable characteristics that tell you it’s time to move on.

• Be sure not to include your last name, address, workplace, phone number, or any other identifying information when corresponding online.

• Surprise call. Call your date at unscheduled times. If your date real appreciates spending the time with you, they will never complain about you calling, at anytime. Look for signs of stress. And again, listen to background noice and make sure nothing is out of the ordinary.

• Never rush into a date. Get to know the person on the other side, especially when you can see them. Find out about his habits, how to talks, and how his mood changes. If you sense that something is wrong with this person overtime, than there probably is.

• Get a free anonymous e-mail account. NEVER give out your real email or name online. Remove any names and email address that you use for online dating purposes.

bConcerned.com has the technology and the resources to monitor your personal safety and is backed by their passionate support staff that is dedicated to monitoring your safe arrival! Our goal at bConcerned.com is to provide a unique service to its members that is user friendly and aims to create an innovative platform in the public safety field. Visit www.bConcerned.com to learn more.

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